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Focus on positive to escape `off' days

By MICHAEL CROM
Gannett News Service

Question: I feel like I'm on a roller coaster. On some days, I'm fine and have a very enthusiastic outlook. On other days, I'm a total mess. I'm barely recognized at work, and lately it seems I lean more toward the days where I tire easily and feel extremely pessimistic. I want to get off this roller coaster but just can't seem to. Help!

Answer: Your roller coaster is one we all ride on from time to time. Having off days happens to all of us. Instead of dwelling on the negativity we may encounter on these days, think of them as learning experiences.

  • Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health and hope.

    Keeping these four principles in mind can bring on a sense of serenity and a new perspective in knowing that those off days are just that: off days. We all have them: the unexpected brings a twist to our routine, causing ripples and changing our plans. By focusing on positive thoughts, a newfound strength arises, and you will realize that this day too shall pass, and you will find the knowledge and courage to take on the situation.

  • Never try to get even.

    It can be so tempting to want to gain payback for an action that we feel was unjustly done to us. However, you must remember how truly draining and useless this can be. Revenge assists a perpetual cycle of getting even: It passes from one person to another, but never really settles anything. And don't forget to take into consideration the effect it has on your emotions and mental outlook. If this is the only thing you are concentrating on, it leaves room for nothing else and drains you of all the positive energy you have to offer.

  • Expect ingratitude.

    Although it can be discouraging not to have your hard work and efforts recognized at times, remember to focus on your performance and be proud of your accomplishments. Instead of feeling resentful, concentrate your energies and continue to apply a strong work ethic to your work.

  • Count your blessings … not your sorrows. Taking into consideration everything one has can assist you in prioritizing your life and concentrating on what's truly important.


    Michael Crom is executive vice president, Dale Carnegie Training. For advice on work issues, visit www.dalecarnegie.com or e-mail carnegiecoach@dalecarnegie.com



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